Split household chores with your partner using this quick tool.
Who doesn't bicker about chores?
As much as it pains me to admit it, I'm the messy person in our relationship. I don't always clean up after myself and this drives my husband crazy. Therefore, chores were certainly the source of a lot our bickering. With the arrival of our son, Leo, my husband and I absolutely needed to find a solution.
My first solo postpartum outing was to target. As usual I perused the $3 section and found a super cute marble styled white-board with a magnet. This little white board was the beginning of a solution that I was dreaming up.
That night I excitedly took out the white board and started sharing my idea with my husband.
On the white board, I made two columns and wrote my name and my husband's name on each column. I handed him the white board and asked him to write the chores that he did on a regular basis and encouraged him to add chores. To my pleasant surprise, he added "dishes" and "vacuuming" to his list. We looked at each other's lists and were happy with the spread of the load.
This white board now lives on our fridge and we reference it on a daily basis. We don't bicker about who's turn it is to wash the dishes anymore. We simply remind each other if a task needs to get done. Sometimes one of us will have a big deadline coming up and the other will pick up the slack. It is a tool that has helped us communicate our expectations and needs of each other.
Steps to get your significant other to help with chores
- Pull out something to write with and use this print out
- Ask your significant other to write down the chores they would like to own
- Write down the chores you would like to own
- Confirm all chores are accounted for
- Agree on a deadline for each chore
- Place your completed chart on the fridge as a reminder
The two key takeaways to split household chores with your partner are: communicate your needs and ask your partner what he/she can help with.
Feel free to use this print out as a conversation starter with your significant other.